What makes someone attractive?
Emma Pinn
What is it that makes us like one person and dislike another? Research has shown that out of a list of over 500 personality traits sincerity, trustworthiness, loyalty, and dependability were highly desirable. Traits of personal warmth and competence were also found to be highly attractive.
People who display personal warmth do this by having a positive outlook - they will talk about things they like, and will praise others. They generally have a positive attitude towards events happening around them, and to other people. Personal warmth can also be displayed through facial expressions (e.g. smiling), being attentive to others, and expressing emotions. In contrast, coldness is often perceived when people express dislike or disapproval of things or people.
Competence (e.g. being a good conversationalist, skilful at a particular task, or highly knowledgable about certain topics) has also been found to be attractive. However, if someone appears too 'perfect' the effect wanes and they become less likeable. It seems that when someone appears too perfect, others start to feel uncomfortable or inadequate around them.
When we suffer from mental health issues such as anxiety and depression, it can be difficult to feel comfortable enough around others to be ourselves and express who we are freely. Reducing anxious and depressive symptoms is important for both ourselves and our relationships. If you suffer from mental health problems such as anxiety and depression, speak to your GP about getting the help and support you need.